We live in a hyper-competitive world. It is easy to be egotistic when you score some big victories. It is easy to be crushed when you suffer massive defeats. However, being a humble person helps you avoid the crash when things are not going your way. It is easier to be a better friend, family member, and colleague when you practice humility. You are not perfect. You never will be. Learning to be more humble will help you improve your self-esteem and increase your inner peace.
These are the habits you should practice to be more humble yet confident:
Be Open About Your Weaknesses
You have some amazing intrinsic values. You are an incredible individual! But be honest about your weaknesses. Spend time looking at areas you're not so strong at. Humble people are able to talk about the areas they need to develop. It takes a lot of inner strength to admit that you are also a work-in-progress.
Being boastful is ugly. It pushes people away because you are elevating yourself at their expense. You are cocky when you brag. It's an awful look. The only reason why you brag is that you have low self-esteem and you need people to validate you. Accept yourself for who you are. Emotional intelligence comes from not needing external validation to feel good. You should feel good about yourself already. Your value is not defined by what society places on you. It is determined by what you make of your life.
Acknowledge Your Flaws
It's hard to be humble if you can't acknowledge your flaws. Being humble is recognizing that you have flaws, just like everyone else. You are not perfect. Be open about your flaws. They are a part of who you are. It's okay to acknowledge where you fall short. It only makes you human. Flaws make you more relatable.
Admit Your Mistakes
Admitting your mistakes is crucial to being a good human being. Only truly humble people are able to securely attached to their mistakes and not let it destroy them. When you develop self-esteem, you understand that mistakes don't have to define you. You understand that the moment will pass. When you cultivate humility, you are able to see your failings clearly. Own up to your mistake. It is hard at the moment, but people will respect you for it.
Successful people understand that expressing gratitude for the people around them is powerful. Spend more time being thankful for the people around you. Cultivating the quality of appreciation helps you feel happier. It makes you realize that good comes from the people around you. You understand that there is goodness in the world. You are not the center of the universe. Even a simple "thank you" can change someone's day. It's life-changing to live in a state of gratitude.
Listen to People
Being a good listener helps you develop empathy for people. You are able to put people ahead of yourself. Start really listening to people, instead of just waiting for your chance to talk. Stop making everything about yourself. Listen to the needs of the people around you. The quality of attentive listening does not appear overnight, nor does it appear without deliberate practice. Good listening skills help you become more humble and empathetic.
When you have been truly humbled, you are able to accept responsibility for your actions. According to Vicky Zakrzewski from UC Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center, when you ground your worth in your "intrinsic value as humans beings rather than things", you can find great self-acceptance. Scientists have discovered that humble people have an accurate picture of themselves, both their faults and gifts. It is evident that cultivating humility helps you accept responsibility for the good and bad things in your life.
Learning how to be humble is important for your development. When you have humility, you are more grounded in your intrinsic self-worth. Stop putting so much weight on people's judgment. Start putting effort towards developing humility. You will live a better life when you understand your self-worth. You are capable of being a humble, kind, and loving person. Begin taking steps towards a better you today.